We all consider ourselves to be mature and conscious adults, especially when we are full of energy, calm, well-fed, and in a great mood!

But let’s face it, that’s not an everyday scenario. For some, such days are a rarity.

Work, studies, family. There’s always something or someone demanding our attention, something we must do or accomplish.

Who are you at this moment? A self-sufficient adult who… wait.

Guilt, resentment, shame, anxiety, uncertainty. Many emotions and feelings arise within us, and it’s as if our age no longer matches what’s on our ID.

While you are still yourself, you become a younger version, whose actions are unlikely to be highly effective or relevant.

Because these are reactions.

Yes, those very reactions you developed in your youth that once saved your life. They offered you protection and peace.

Back then.

In those situations.

In childhood.

To the child you were.

How effective are these roles and behaviors at 20, 30, 40 years old and beyond?

The resentment of a 5-year-old in a 25-year-old’s relationship?

The shame of a 6-year-old at a 35-year-old’s workplace?

The guilt of a 10-year-old in a 40-year-old’s business dealings?

Stop.

Look at the situation from the outside, as if you are watching a movie.

How does it look from that perspective?

Mature and confident, or do the reactions cast doubt on the appropriateness of what’s happening?

Sometimes, just realizing this is enough to understand that something needs to change. What exactly and how – that’s very individual.

Specific steps:

1. 𝐑𝐞𝐜𝐨𝐠𝐧𝐢𝐳𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐞𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: 　
Notice when you react like a child.

2. 𝐀𝐧𝐚𝐥𝐲𝐳𝐞 𝐲𝐨𝐮𝐫 𝐫𝐞𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬: 　
Understand why you are reacting this way.

3. 𝐖𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐨𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐧𝐠𝐞𝐬: 　
Find ways to alter your reactions and behavior.

It might sound simple, but it requires considerable effort and self-work. However, this process can be significantly accelerated.

I can help you with this, feel free to reach out.