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  • Probability vs. Reality: Charting Your Own Course

    Probability vs. Reality: Charting Your Own Course

    “𝐈𝐟 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝟏𝟎𝟎% 𝐜𝐞𝐫𝐭𝐚𝐢𝐧𝐭𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐮𝐧𝐝𝐞𝐫𝐬𝐭𝐚𝐧𝐝𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐚 𝐬𝐢𝐭𝐮𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧, 𝐢𝐭’𝐬 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐬𝐭 𝐬𝐢𝐠𝐧 𝐭𝐡𝐚𝐭 𝐲𝐨𝐮 𝐡𝐚𝐯𝐞 𝐧𝐨 𝐢𝐝𝐞𝐚 𝐰𝐡𝐚𝐭’𝐬 𝐠𝐨𝐢𝐧𝐠 𝐨𝐧.”

    That’s the advice my psychology teacher gave me.

    Everyone’s life is truly unique

    We don’t know what will happen to us, and we can’t predict the outcomes of our actions, especially when they involve others.

    Sometimes, all factors and our interpretation point to one cause, result, or conclusion.

    Statistically, it might be a reasonable assumption, but we often deal with specific cases.

    As they say, it doesn’t matter if the probability is 99% if you end up in that 1%.

    We can’t predict anything in advance.

    If so, what can we do?

    First:

    ▶︎ Explore possibilities

    ▶︎ Test probabilities

    ▶︎ Analyze outcomes

    And then build what you want based on what happens.

    Based on facts, not assumptions.

    It’s particularly dangerous to base your actions on conclusions like “it can’t be any other way!” In such cases, often, the castles in the air collapse straight onto their creators, with all the consequences.

    We never know precisely how something will happen until it does.

    Maybe in general, but the details make the difference and are crucial.

    So, moving step by step along the path of progress is the fastest way to achieve desired results.

    (C) Progress Psychologist, Ivan

  • Get your balance, relax, and focus.

    Get your balance, relax, and focus.

    There is a technique all high performers are using.
    Even if they don’t realize it themselves.

    It helped me reach top performance across many fields.
    And I’m about to reveal it to you.

    This technique follows a specific framework.
    The BRA (balance, relaxation, attention):

    Let’s find out how to use it

    Read more: Get your balance, relax, and focus.

    The BRA framework was found in one of my passions – massage and gentle methods for restoring body balance – a.k.a osteopathy.

    On Monday, I did my first seminar on manual techniques and osteopathy in Japanese.

    11 years ago, I graduated from a massage qualification course.
    After getting the basic skills, I participated in over 190 hours of seminars.
    I practiced for a total of 4 years.

    My interest was so big that sometimes I spent an entire month’s salary on 3-4 day seminars.

    Was it worth it? Yes, absolutely.

    After moving to Japan, my practice stopped. I couldn’t find work in this specialization due to the high specificity of my approach.

    So, for 7 years, I had a break in practice. It’s frustrating and disappointing, but it’s a fact.

    About a month ago, two friends asked me to teach them the basics of the gentle approach that I know.
    They have more than 7-8 years of massage experience, while I only have 4 years, which was 7 years ago!

    But our approaches are different, and the entire process is not alike.
    Thanks to my friend’s experience, they grasped the material fast and could understand it.

    I dedicated the past week to preparing for this seminar (that’s why I disappeared from Twitter). I had only 5 hours available, although I wanted to show and tell much more.

    As always, “overdeliver” is my second name regarding things I’m passionate about.

    While preparing for the seminar, I reviewed old video recordings. 10 people, odd camera angles, and sometimes a crackling sound. Yet the value of the material remains intact.

    It felt like it was yesterday.
    My teacher taught us the art of thinking.

    Yes, exactly. Not how or where to press, but where to focus attention and concepts for evaluating the entire body.

    The foundation, as always, is crucial:
    ▶︎ Balance (posture)
    ▶︎ Relaxation
    ▶︎ Attention

    Posture
    How often do you pay attention to your posture?
    Adults tell us about it so many times in our childhood, right?
    Let’s try again together:

    ▶︎ Sit on a chair. Legs at a 90-degree angle, comfortable and straight.
    ▶︎ Rock back and forth and side to side, like a pendulum, to find your balance.
    ▶︎ Do the same with your head.

    When you are in balance, even turning your head will create a sense of imbalance and muscle tension. It will drain energy from your body, causing anxiety and attracting attention.

    Relaxation is the next step,
    Without it, you won’t be able to feel even the disruption of your balance. Not to mention the balance of the person’s body in front of you.

    In this state, we can perceive much more information from both inside and outside.

    ▶︎ Scan your entire body, looking for tension.
    ▶︎ By moving in the tense area, relax it.
    ▶︎ Take a deep breath and quick exhale.

    Use simple questions: “Am I relaxed? Really?”
    This question will be an indicator of your level of relaxation.
    Over time, this level will only grow.

    We use attention at every step. But it’s essential when the preparation is complete (posture, relaxation). In this case, we can maximize the power of our brains to solve the tasks we need.

    ▶︎ What captures your attention?
    ▶︎ What’s essential in the current situation?
    ▶︎ Where’s the best place to start?

    Energy flows where attention goes. And when the body uses minimal power, it brings focus to a new level.

    The same principles in martial arts:

    ▶︎ Balance (posture and body balance)
    ▶︎ Relaxation (freedom of movement)
    ▶︎ Attention (understanding and reacting)

    What about psychology?

    ▶︎ Balance (getting out of a problematic state).
    ▶︎ Relaxation (releasing tension from the situation).
    ▶︎ Attention (analyzing what happened and what I can do).

    These are three simple steps that you can apply anywhere.

    Preparation is the most important for setting the momentum for the entire process.

    As for me:
    I love touching people’s bodies (massage/martial arts) and hearts (psychology).
    This is the best application of my balance, relaxation, and attention.

    What about you?
    Where do you think you can apply the BRA framework in your life?